Discovery has been much more experimental and daring and broken a lot more than other ST series (redesigning the Klingons?) but I don’t mind most of the problems you seem to have with it (for instance, Spock being forced to classify his retconned missing sister is actually a pretty juicy plot point in SNW), and most of those don’t strike me as exceptional when you consider what previous captains have gone through. I mean Kirk KILLED THE GOD APOLLO, Janeway EVOLVED INTO A HYPERSALAMANDER AND BACK, Picard FOUND OUT THAT ALL HUMANOIDS WERE SEEDED BY A LOST RACE…none of this is fundamentally new.
Lower Decks is rad, but if you’re not into the meta/ironic turn then I understand not liking it (even though it actually does a good job of presenting Starfleet as aspirational, virtuous, AND oppressive). You’re forgetting about ST: Prodigy, apparently. (And Enterprise.) But the point is that they clearly understand their audience is heterogeneous and they want to make different strokes for different folks. When fan service goes pluralistic, it suddenly becomes impossible to tune out the indignance, now in stereo… (even my own)